For the young guy's out there

MCSPIN · Post by **MCSPIN** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 12:28 pm

DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT GETTING MARRIED. TAKE IT FROM ME WHO KNOWS AND THAT'S ALL I'AM GOING TO SAY ABOUT THAT.

Bassin · Post by **Bassin** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 12:41 pm

My wife is my #1 supporter!

drew · Post by **drew** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 12:46 pm

Great timing, I'm getting married in July. Could have used the advice 6 months ago when I proposed.

MCSPIN wrote:DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT GETTING MARRIED. TAKE IT FROM ME WHO KNOWS AND THAT'S ALL I'AM GOING TO SAY ABOUT THAT.

MCSPIN · Post by **MCSPIN** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 12:49 pm

NO TOURNAMENT IN MIND. JUST WARNING THE YOUNGER GUY'S. MARRIAGE CAN BE HELL.

ash · Post by **ash** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 12:52 pm

Yeah just wait until your wife reads this.....

Ray L. · Post by **Ray L.** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 1:04 pm

Well not so sure about those comments.
I have been married going on 17 years and too be honest it has been great.
No she is not over my shoulder right now....

Noluk · Post by **Noluk** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 1:07 pm

Ray L. wrote:Well not so sure about those comments.
I have been married going on 17 years and too be honest it has been great.
No she is not over my shoulder right now....

Did you leave your computer logged into Westernbass while out on the road again Ray?

Although (tbh) it probably has been great from RAY'S perpective so who knows what she would really say....

justflipit · Post by **justflipit** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 1:22 pm

well every guy at my work says the same thing i consider myself married right now to my ranger boat payment and truck. and both of them treat me well

MCSPIN · Post by **MCSPIN** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 1:42 pm

Been married 24 years alot of ups and downs.

vincent gennaro · Post by **vincent gennaro** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 4:01 pm

MARRIED FOR FORTY YEARS TO SAME WOMAN.BUT NEW BOAT

Ricky-S · Post by **Ricky-S** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 4:30 pm

Been married for 7 years all of which I have fished all 15-18 tournaments a year.

I've never had my wife complain once about me going fishing and/or the amount of time I am away from home.

She has pleanty other things to complain about:)

Schneider Fishing · Post by **Schneider Fishing** » Fri Apr 25, 2008 6:52 pm

My wife is great. She was the one who said it was time to sell the Alum. ranger and get a real fiberglass bass boat. Of course she prefers that I don't go away for the weekend but no problem letting me fish both Saturday and Sunday locally. She just wants me home for bed.

Married since 1991

tunaman · Post by **tunaman** » Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:50 pm

Been with mine for nearly 14 years, and married for 12... it is a great thing with the right one. Just make as sure as you can that you're settling down with the right one and it should all work out.

Roger

manas_bass · Post by **manas_bass** » Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:05 pm

Gary what are you thinking, now Will and Kyle will never even get girlfriends after this post great.
Well maybe we'll get lucky and they will give up fishin, YEH RIGHT.

BIG L · Post by **BIG L** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 3:41 am

NOW FOR ALL YOU YOUNG GUYS OUT THERE. I've been married for 43 years to the same women & been fishing tourn. since the mid 70's. I fish about 50 tourns. a year & still work 45 hrs. a week. I have 14 kids 10 are adopted,10 are still at home ages 3 through 26. My secret is if you stay busy you will enjoy your time fishing & your time at home. No one ask if I'm fishing this week end, it is where are you fishing & when will you be home. They will always be waiting for me to tell me everything that happened & how did I do. Just remember when you decide to get married there is alot of give & take , much more give than take.

some guy · Post by **some guy** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 6:33 am

MANAS... you know damn well KYLE and WILL can't get no play from the ladies.

big_gorilla · Post by **big_gorilla** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 7:39 am

It all come down to one word.

BALANCE!

Fishing is fun and addicting but you always have to remember family comes first. That's where most guys have problems. They don't know how to balance things. My wife and daughter are alot more important then fishing. Don't get me wrong I love to fish but I can't imagine waking up and not seeing my family.

MCSPIN · Post by **MCSPIN** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 8:05 am

Big_gorilla,
You hit the nail on the head. My wife has always been very supported of my fishing and lure making. But, to much can be to much. Wives need the companionship and father figure for the kids around the house. I have let my wife do to much over the years by her self and that was wrong. I have stepped up to the plate and relized this. Don't get me wrong my wife and I love each other very much. But it takes two to make a marriage. You can think that they are happy with you fishing alot, but you could lose alot later. Wives want nothing more than to make there man happy but the mean time they need to be happy also. I'am sorry if I lead anyone to belive that I did'nt love my wife. I was just going through a bad time in my life. If you love them take care of them and communicate with them it's important.

Gary

tunaman · Post by **tunaman** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 8:24 am

Good advice Gary... hope everything works out right for you.

Roger

MCSPIN · Post by **MCSPIN** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 9:26 am

Roger,
Everything is good. Problems in the marriage only brings you closer and stronger.

DanWarme · Post by **DanWarme** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 10:27 am

If you look at the facts,
In 100% of the divorces,

a woman was involved.

I'm just sayin'....

In my own case, after adding it all up, my divorce cost about $500,000. Not counting the added expenses long after it was done.
Ya that's a hell of a lot,
but lookin' back on it now, I can truly say,
It was worth every penny!

some guy · Post by **some guy** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:11 am

That's why divorce's cost so much.... because they are worth it.

Im with justflipit... im married to my boat and my truck. There is so much random out there why deal with all the drama that comes with it..

I look it at chicks like this... i got one in the well and always looking to cull.

Everything i learned i learned from suga free... thats why you'll never see a grina of suga on me.. it is what it b**ches.

Hugh_M · Post by **Hugh_M** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:25 am

I can relate. I was married to the same woman for 32 years, been divorced for 10 years now, and my divorce was VERY EXPENSIVE too. But, as has already been expressed before, it was well worth the money to end it and get out. There is GOOD LIFE after divorce !!!! Of course, you can't afford to retire and will have to work until you die... Heh HEh

Hugh

tunaman · Post by **tunaman** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:35 am

The other thing I didn't mention previously is that this is the second for both of us... took us twice each to get it right (so far!). Everyone has to do what it takes to be happy in life, as life is far too short to be miserable or unhappy.

Roger

buddy brown · Post by **buddy brown** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:38 am

good marriage+kids=

berri good

mother in law living w/ you, with a voice that sounds a cross between james earl jones and a horse yelping, asking you questions all the time=

dis bad, dis berri berri bad

some guy · Post by **some guy** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:41 am

oh you poor poor amigos... may you all be blessed with 10lbers.

tunaman · Post by **tunaman** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:50 am

THANK YOU kind sir!

M. Warner · Post by **M. Warner** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 2:16 pm

well I am taking the plunge on june 28, and many people tell me not to do it, but so far she has been cool with the fishing. We have had our ups and downs over it though.

Morris · Post by **Morris** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 2:51 pm

hey BIG is it going to be a 20 or 21 in the garage "balance".lol

Darkman · Post by **Darkman** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 3:28 pm

you know Ive been with my wife 11+ years...married 9

and Its been great....any time I wake up and don't have a stake though the heart....must of done some thing right

Nunyo Bizness · Post by **Nunyo Bizness** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 3:52 pm

Did for 17 years, 2 beautiful daughters, house, cars, motorcycle everything but a boat. She walked 5 years ago, thought she saw greener pastures, tried to get her to come back but....... Sold the house, motorcycle for squat but we are still friends for our children sake and yes I still see them (just not as much as I would like). She has already found someone else (just won't get married yet, she would lose out on the alimony for god sakes). Myself, I found Bass fishing (thanks to K. Ripa). Four more years of support payments at $1818.00 a month, then its time for Johnny to get his boat....until then...anyone got a open back seat????????? Oh and as far as another lady....as long as she understands my love for fishing or even likes to fish herself, but I'm not going to rush into anything. Being alone isn't so bad once you get use to it.

John

DAKINE198 · Post by **DAKINE198** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 4:01 pm

JUST ONE THING TWO SIMPLE WORDS PHUKET, AINOKEA oh yeah if your reading this hunn.... look at my face does it look like I care

DAKINE198 · Post by **DAKINE198** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 4:03 pm

hey nunyo is it really that much for child support nowdays???? oh yeah I got room for you on my boat.

Nunyo Bizness · Post by **Nunyo Bizness** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 4:13 pm

Dakine198,
Could have been more but they took mercy to a certain extent.
Any time you want to go fishing, I'm game. I am more then willing to throw in for Gas and even make a Killer sandwich I've been told. So yeah, let me know. BTW, that is very cool of you to offer.

John

fishinman · Post by **fishinman** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:50 am

been married 3 times, still married. besides legitimitly I lived with 7 other women for more than 2 years. Marriage is better designed for the female than the male. If It goes bad we get the shiity end of the stick unless your a (stud) kept man (shes gots all da joe)!!!!

DanWarme · Post by **DanWarme** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 2:26 pm

Man ain't complete till he's married.
Then he's finished!

She decided where she's gonna keep your twins yet?

Some women like to put em out on display with the other little useless nic nacs for her friends to giggle at.

Others hide 'em thinkin you might try to actually reclaim them sometime.

For anyone else thinking of steppin off that plank.... Think about this.

Imagine the most contemptable person you can. Lowest of the low. Some one you hate with all your soul.

Now think about givin' them half your stuff.

Gerryjig · Post by **Gerryjig** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 4:10 pm

been married for over 19 years and been with her for over 24. Have 2 boys 12 and 14 and my best friend in the world "Boris" my Chocolate Lab. I fish as much or more than anyone I know.....hasn't been a problem at all and the one I miss the most when I'm gone for more than 2-3 days is ....you guessed it......BORIS!! My advice to my kids......brush your teeth 2x per day.....do good in school.....finish college and wait until your 30 to even think about marriage and or kids

Rick G · Post by **Rick G** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 6:49 pm

When I met Cindy, she owned her own Champion and loved to throw the buzzbait. One in a million, just gotta find the right one. They ARE out there somewhere. Rick G.

mark poulson · Post by **mark poulson** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 6:50 pm

MCSPIN wrote:DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT GETTING MARRIED. TAKE IT FROM ME WHO KNOWS AND THAT'S ALL I'AM GOING TO SAY ABOUT THAT.

Don't you believe it!
Don't spend your life prefishing.
Set the hook. The worst that can happen is it won't work out.

Kevin · Post by **Kevin** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 8:38 pm

That's funny Rick! Cindy and Cody might be the new team to beat.

Kenneth Haring · Post by **Kenneth Haring** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 8:48 pm

Ricky; haven't seen you out much in the past few months, did your wife put the clamps on?

Brian Linehan · Post by **Brian Linehan** » Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:50 pm

Being married is the best thing I've ever done. It's been 5 years and I wouldn't change it a bit. It is what you make of it.

BIG L · Post by **BIG L** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 5:30 am

Brian I think you you hit the nail on the head with its what you make of it. Have you noticed that its how much of my money & my stuff she got ,not our money. My wife has never been on the lake in our boat, notice I said our boat not my boat.

Rick G · Post by **Rick G** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 6:00 am

as my life has a new formula, 2 Locations=twice the work. Just trying to show up a little at DVl to net a few for the kid. Also, coaching T-Ball for my 5 year old and Umpiring for the 10-13 year olds in Little League. I am going to put the whoop a$$ on the fish next week at Mateos Lake in Mexico. Cindy has been in the Boat/Fishing business for her whole life. She knows you gotta get out to stay sharp. Rick G.

some guy · Post by **some guy** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 6:07 am

you def found the needle in the hay stack... as for me... chicks get in the way of prefishing.

With the price it takes to pre fish twice a week anymore i wouldnt be able to afford a chick anyways!

Ricky-S · Post by **Ricky-S** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 6:43 am

Yep-Don't fool yourself. Marriage is like anything else in life-It's what you make it.

Funny thing is that every one of the men that mentioned bad experiences with a woman during marriage blamed the women as opposed to taking some ownership in what they (the man) "may" have done to attribute to a divorce. To me that would be the first indicator of not being mature enough to get and/or stay married.

Being married is the one of the toughest challenges in life, second only maybe to being a parent. I will say that you should never get married unless you are making the decision for yourself. Donâ€™t let people pressure you into something that you are not ready to do.

I have been married for 7 years, I got married at a fairly young age right out of college while I was trying to chase these little green fish all over the Western US and start a professional career in my field. As a matter of fact I had a tournament the week of and the week after my wedding. My wife knew what she was getting herself into from the get-go. Thatâ€™s why I married her.

At some point a person has to take some ownership for the things that happen in their life and look inward to see what role you play in the outcomes. My marriage is working because I want it work and strive for balance in the time that I spend fishing and the time that I take my wife on vacations where I invest time in her. I also told my wife that I would never put my family in a situation where fishing takes away from her livelihood or her way of life and I havenâ€™t (knock on wood).

There is nothing wrong with marriage, however there is something wrong with doing it for the wrong reasons and the idea that people are not willing to invest the same time and energy as they may invest in something such as bass fishing.

Off my soap boxâ€¦..PS. Being married has never gotton in the way of prefishing....

some guy · Post by **some guy** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 7:14 am

i feel ya ricky... heres my take....

im 26 and have a very demanding job... its very stressfull.. maybe im just cracked out on bass fishing, but whenever i get a free minute im on the water... whether it be DVL... Hodges.... Catalina Island... Newport Harbor or golf course ponds.. I have to catch atleast one bass a day or im just not right.. im not against marriage at all, just right now im having too much fun fishing to even stop to look!

Nunyo Bizness · Post by **Nunyo Bizness** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 7:43 am

Yeah, pretty easy to stand on the soap box and say nobodies taking the blame. My post was simple and not really blaming anyone. She made the decision to walk, she had her reasons and they are valid for what she wants out of life. I wanted to stay married, begged and pleaded to find a different way. She did not want that. It just didn't work out. We raised two children together, both of whom are outstanding students, my oldest works 40 hours a week and also goes to school. Their mother and I worked very hard at making them the people they are today. If you knew me at all you would understand that I love my family very much (yes, including my ex) but when a person decides to change something in their life, you can not force them to stop.
But to have a person who's been married less then half the time I was try and pass judgement and call me immature, well that says something for their maturity. To you Ricky I say "good for you and keep up that effort", I'm glad you found someone who works for you and I pray it will last for you, at 7 seven years my ex and I were rolling along pretty good too. But please don't pass judgement on such a broad spectrum, not everything is black and white. And sometimes a spade is a spade.
John

Ricky-S · Post by **Ricky-S** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 10:15 am

Hey John and anyone else,
I am not passing judgement on you on anyone else. I was merely stating what I read in the posts, which was a bunch of what the women did and not a single thing about what "we" do as men.

Balance my friend, balance. There are always three sides to every story. The truth is usually somewhere in between what each person sees as their perception.

We all struggle for balance, and a marriage can be the best or worst decision that anyone makes in their life.

some guy · Post by **some guy** » Wed Apr 30, 2008 10:26 am

I didnt think you singled me out at all... im just giving my opinion on the matter. I think it might have rubbed someone else the wrong way judging by these posts:lol:

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